5 Things We Learn from Kelly Rowland's "Dirty Laundry"

Ms. Kelly's album may be at the top of the charts right now for it's great musical attributes but her hit single "Dirty Laundry" has lots to tell about the lives of women.

1. Jealousy of a friends success is not cute!

We may actually love some of our girls like a sister but sometimes they may gain opportunities that we also wanted. This does not mean that there is some deep dark jealousy brewing of the person but more so of the successes they gained. So even if there are some feelings of jealousy, we still should be  happy for our friends and remember that since we were down with them before they achieved this success that naturally they would want to pull us up with them.  

2. Domestic Violence does not equal LOVE.

Love might hurt sometimes but it should not be painful for an extended period of  time. If someone continuously hits and abuses another, physically, mentally and emotionally there is no love in that relationship. If someone is abusing you, report them to the proper authorities and get out of that relationship. That relationship is based on control and not love. You deserve to be with someone that loves and respects you and treats you the way you feel that you deserve. 

3. Don't hold pain in, it makes you ugly.

Harboring lots of anger and resentment often results in less smiling and subsequently as perceived ugly face or bad attitude. Remove negative energies from your life right from the start. Don't let drama build up over time and cause a big war with a good friend. Settle disagreements fast and cut off those who are afraid of your shine. Don't let others with negative energies stay in your circle too long, it could damage your aura and worse make you like them.

4. Always believe in Yourself!

Always, Always, Always believe in your skills, talents, abilities and the power of you. Never let anyone break the confidence you have in yourself. If you don't first believe in you, who else will? 

5. Don't put any man ahead of your girls.  

I know it might be tempting to let a fine brother walk into your life and forget all about your friends but don't. Any man that loves you will love your friends and family too. Your girls will always be there if anything should ever happen  to your man candy, trust and believe that your girls will always have your back. 

Problematic Music videos Part. 1

FUTURE FT. KELLY ROWLAND - Neva End (Remix) lyrics

After getting over Future's horrible vocals in his latest song "Neva End" featuring Kelly Rowland, the video and lyrics are quite displeasing! The images and romantic relationship that the video promotes continues the long trail of on & off relationships found among many black couples.

A romantic relationship among many other things is about give and take, respect, love and commitment. But in Future's latest video it appears that whatever the man decides to do in a relationship is okay because "ride or die chic" will put up with anything. Which includes him stepping out of the relationship with or with out her knowledge because according to the chorus "You got all the questions and I know all the answers". "You" being the woman with all the questions and her male counterpart, all the answers.

So if we take the song apart in the first verse Future declares that's as long as his money stays long and he keeps giving her that "good lovin" she'll always be dependent on him "Long as I’m swimmin’ in Benjamins, you shop with no limited You’ll see reminisce every session, know you’ll come back again I know you can’t breathe without me, you gon’ need the oxygen I damn near gave you an overdose, on my own medicine".

Next verse, Kelly's bridge she found out that he was cheating and even tho he made her so mad, she stays because she still loves him and continues to come back!? "You showed your true colors I can’t believe you played me/ I let you meet my mother!/ Oh, you hung out with my brother, my significant other/ you know I still love you, oh baby/ Oh boy, you make me so mad, but I come right back".

My question is why? Why are women continually going back to men who treat them bad repeatedly? One key factor is the images portrayed in the media when other black women in music and movies find no fault even set the tone to stay in bad relationships. Black women are the most beautiful creatures on the planet and women in general are the most hard working so why subject yourselves to a man that cannot respect your worth?